by Henry Makow Ph.D.
What better example
of stupid, self-defeating
behavior than the latest advice of a veteran feminist?
In an article
entitled "Marry Him" (Atlantic Monthly
March 2008) Lori Gottlieb advises her sisters to
"settle"--marry anything in sight...and fast. This kind of
abject surrender, while satisfying in an "I told you so"
way, is also sad.
Millions of women who outsourced their common sense and
trusted the media, their teachers, their leaders and their
society are now high-and-dry. They were told they could have
but most can't.
There are three times as many single women in their 30's now
than there were in the 1970's. By the time these women have
established their careers, many are too hard bitten and
used, and the good men are all gone.
They are the victims of the most evil, most successful,
in history. It was designed to turn
out exactly as it has: give them career instead of family
But until feminists acknowledge that they are victims of a
cruel hoax, they won't be able to salvage whatever is left.
I'll elaborate on this theme later but first Ill give you a
taste of the wisdom of a woman who defines "pathetic."
MS The BOAT
Ms. Gottlieb begins by describing a picnic where she and a
friend (both with babies by sperm donors) are not feeling
"satisfied." Surprise. They miss not having husbands. No
doubt the children will miss not having fathers.
"Ask any soul-baring 40-year-old single heterosexual woman
what she longs for in life...what she really wants is a
husband..." Gottlieb confesses.
While she and her friends "still call ourselves feminists
and insist we're independent and self sufficient...every
woman I know--no matter how successful and ambitious, how
financially and emotionally secure, feels panic ..if she
hits 30 and find herself unmarried."
Sounding very much like a Jewish harridan, or Oprah, her
advice is to "Settle!" Forget about true love, his annoying
habits, his halitosis or abysmal sense of aesthetics.
Marriage, she has discovered ,is about having a team-mate,
even if he's not the love of your life. She even recommends
gays as possible mates.
How did she end up like this? Too much "education" I
imagine. Too much feminist empowerment and Hollywood- fueled
expectations of romance and men. Earlier in life, she dumped
someone because although they had "strong physical
chemistry" and their "sensibilities were similar, they
proved to be a half-note off, so we never quite felt in
harmony, or never viewed the world through quite the same
Apparently, she was looking for a clone.
"Now, though, I realize that if I don't want to be alone for
the rest of my life, I'm at the age where I'll likely need
to settle for someone who is settling for me. .. We lose
sight of our mortality. We forget that we, too, will age and
become less alluring. ...Which is all the more reason to
settle before settling is no longer an option."
"Take the date I went on last night. The guy was
substantially older. He had a long history of major
depression and said, in reference to the movies he was
writing, "I'm fascinated by comas" and "I have a strong
interest in terrorists." He'd never been married. He was
rude to the waiter. But he very much wanted a family, and he
was successful, handsome, and smart. As I looked at him from
across the table, I thought, Yeah, I'll see him again. Maybe
I can settle for that. But my very next thought was, Maybe I
can settle for better. It's like musical chairs--when do you
take a seat, any seat, just so you're not left standing
"But then my married friends say things like, "Oh, you're so
lucky, you don't have to negotiate with your husband about
the cost of piano lessons" or "You're so lucky, you don't
have anyone putting the kid in front of the TV and you can
raise your son the way you want." I'll even hear things
like, "You're so lucky, you don't have to have sex with
someone you don't want to."
"The lists go on, and each time, I say, "OK, if you're so
unhappy, and if I'm so lucky, leave your husband! In fact,
send him over here!"
"Not one person has taken me up on this offer."
Did I say "Pathetic" ?
My advice to single women in their 30's is -Do Not Panic. Do
not "Settle." You are far better off alone than with a
misfit. Also, whatever you do, do not have a child
out-of-wedlock or from a sperm bank. That diminishes your
chances of marriage big-time. Gottlieb is desperate to
"settle" mainly because she has an infant on her hands.
The key thing to realize is that feminism was not
spontaneous grass roots social change as it is portrayed. It
was social engineering designed to phase out gender,
marriage and the nuclear family. There are half as many
nuclear families now than there were in the 1960's. The
destruction of the family is part of a larger agenda to
destabilize and depopulate society in advance of a thinly
veiled totalitarian world government. Read my book "Cruel
Hoax" and see my website for details.
Sexual liberation is part of this agenda. Men see no reason
to marry now that unfettered sex is so plentiful. I advise
women to consecrate sex for long-term loving relationships
and end them in 6-8 mos. if marriage is not imminent. Don't
waste time on window shoppers.
Feminists have been neutered by adopting the male role model
and eschewing the feminine one. They need to rediscover
their natural feminine instincts. This involves finding a
man they can believe in, and nurture, and not settle for
less. True love stems from the sacrifice that women make for
the person they love. Let him lead and keep your mouth shut
about all his faults. But don't let him take you for granted
and dump him if he doesn't love you back big-time!
Generally speaking, the people behind elite social
engineering are satanists in the sense that they want to be
God. They want to define what is true according to their
interests. They want to override God (Truth) AND Nature.
Women were designed to marry and have children in their late
teens and early twenties. That's when they are irresistible
to young men. They should marry men who have graduated and
are starting their careers.
Raising children is what married people do together. It's
not an afterthought. It's what they have in common.It's
natural growth, both biological and in terms of their
personal development and fulfillment.
Nature doesn't give rain checks, as millions of women are
discovering, the hard way. --------------------
Thanks to JD for sending this article.
Read this classic article in support of nuclear families:
"Dan Quayle Was Right" by Barbara Dafoe Whitehead http://www.theatlantic.com/politics/family/danquayl.htm