The Domestic Tyrant
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[This is when your partner indulges in anger (for whatever reason, a petty tyrant, a past unresolved conflict, or a passed down parent habit) and uses you as a kicking board.  This could build up over the years to 2 or more bollockings a day, from a mild rebuke or put-down to an out and out rant and rave.  A Domestic tyrant took the saying 'crying over spilt milk' to heart and not only cries over trivia but can run the whole gamut of emotions.  A helpful insight here is the saying (Werner Erhard probably) 'Every upset is a set up', meaning the tyrant creates situations, through the subconscious mind, to get upset about.
    Just realising the game going on is the first step out of it.  You can see a domestic tyrant in the handwriting.  There is absolutely no justifiable reason to use negative emotion in dialogue, to criticise rather than offer an observation, but try telling a domestic tyrant that!  It would blow the whole game.]

"Beware of emotions.  The emotional person is turned off sensually.   His body is a churning robot.  Emotions are addictive, narcotic, and stupefacient.  Moods such as sorrow and joy accompany emotions.  Like a junkie who has just connected, the emotional person feels good when he has scored emotionally, i.e., put someone down or been beaten down.  Conscious love is not an emotion; it is the serene merging with yourself, with other people, with other forms of energy.  Love cannot exist in an emotional state.  Emotions are emergency alarms.....The presocial wily-animal god of emotion-locomotion resides within our nervous system, ready to pour out flight-fight endocrine juices (p97)."T. Leary