[This is the Way, one big reason why they exterminated the Cathars.]
 What Is Karezza?
 Comparing Neo-Daoism with Karezza by Marnia Robinson and Gary Wilson Sadly, Chia’s own experience led to this same outcome. Two visitors to his center in Thailand (one an insider) independently informed me that he left his wife of many years, in pursuit of a young girl from the local village. This behavior is very consistent with the Coolidge Effect. It’s quite inconsistent with the experience of merging deeply with a lover in the “valley orgasm.” That experience, which has been alluded to in various traditions, is a spiritual experience, which enhances vision so we don't feel compelled to follow biology's dictates in our mating choices. Recently, I’ve had the gift of input from two men who have used Chia’s system for years. One reports that he has no desire for a monogamous relationship, and resents his partners’ desire for one.
HEALING WITH SEXUAL ENERGY by Walter Last
In 1872, after more than 25 years of practice John Humphrey Noyes published his experiences and theories in Male Continence. Two other Karezza Classics are The Karezza Method by J. William Lloyd (1931), and Karezza: Ethics of Marriage by Alice Bunker Stockham, MD (1903). All of these are available as free downloads from www.reuniting.info.
The Karezza Method by J. William Lloyd
Two other Karezza Classics are
Karezza: Ethics of Marriage by Alice Bunker Stockham, MD (1903).
"Cathar priests and priestesses were both called
parfaits, meaning 'perfects,' rising to their office through good works,
austerities, spiritual initiations, and the practice of meditation. They
believed in reincarnation, the immortality of the soul, asceticism, and
nonviolence. Like Jesus, they practiced the healing arts in rites known as 'the
laying on of hands.' They rejected the notion of the Eucharist and were opposed
to the normal institution of marriage.
Cathars, American Perfectionists, and transcendentalists shared many common beliefs. Most were dualists, believing that the forces of good and evil have existed since the beginning of the universe and will continue to exist until the end. They did not follow the orthodox Christian view that evil was created by original sin, which supposedly entered the soul of humankind following Adam and Eve's expulsion from the Garden of Eden. Because Christian dualists did not subscribe to the doctrine of original sin, they viewed sex as a spiritual act.
Cathars practiced spiritual sex in the esoteric early Christian and Tantric tradition, using breath control, visualization, and other Yogic techniques. They practiced a form of coitus reservus, sometimes referred to as karezza ("little caress"), concerning which more detail shall follow shortly. Cathars became rich and powerful, building their own churches and castles. They were eventually perceived as a threat to the orthodox Catholic church. The Pope ordered all Christian heretics 'cleansed' and, beginning in 1209, organized massacres of Cathars followed, together with the confiscation of their property. By the fourteenth century, Catharism had been virtually exterminated. However, esoteric Cathar spiritual sex teachings survived among the Knights Templars, the Troubadours, and in the teachings of some secret societies and occult organizations that emerged in Europe between the late thirteenth and mid-seventeenth centuries." ~ Nik Douglas (Spiritual Sex p. 170, 171)